Feminism And Like Concepts

Most women are feminists. Most of these women who are feminists, don't even know what feminism is. They believe in this concept without even knowing the meaning,tenets and ideas behind it.

I remember talking to a lady some years back and eager to sound smart she had told me (unwittingly I might add) that she's a feminist, ofcos this had piqued my interest. So I asked her, what type of feminist are you? And she replied, "Beyounces's type "(lol). This conversation might sound funny but it sums up everything wrong with feminism.

Now, feminism is a fight for equality (equality of the sexes to be precise), but extreme feminism actually is bent on the eradication of the family structure,why? Because, the family (they believe) is the primary basis for inequality. So you see situations where women are advised to use a sperm bank instead of giving birth the old fashioned way. It uses the guise of empowerment to demolish principles that has built generations and civilisations.

Now, don't get me wrong, I like being educated, independent and enlightened but feminism didn't make this happen, "Woman ism" did; the belief of the importance of the female, this is not about equality (nobody likes a she-man) this is purely empowerment and knowledge. 

I had seen the so called Feminist Video by Beyonce feat Chimammanda Adichie and all it did was make me loose my respect for the writer. Beyonce was prancing and jumping around almost naked in the video (talking about how she woke up like this) while Adichie's voice prattled on at the background about things no one  listened to because they were too busy focused on Beyonce's behind. Or the case of the feminist who ran into a imam's lecture hall butt naked because he was teaching on the importance of the hijab which was against her feminist principles.

So what exactly are we doing. Are we being feminists or is it that people fought so much, won the battle and instead of us enjoying the victory, we are still fighting even though there's really nothing to fight for anymore (you've won! Cease fire!!!).

Now the Nigerian version of feminism will make Mrs Ransome-Kuti will turn over in her grave, I love the BBOG group (bring back our girls), but carrying placards all over abuja doesn't make you a feminist, it doesn't even make you any kind of "ist". 

Now let's talk Womanism- this is the concept that you can be anything you want to be without giving up your sexua

lity.... you can be manager of the company,a wife, mother, anything(and still have a killer body). You've heard of Malala?? She had been shot for advocating for girls' right to education in pakistan, when she turned 18 she opened a Syrian refugees school in lebanon..... and all the while, she didn't loose her hijab.... she never for once said am a Feminist, so lemme run around like a wild monkey, she didn't pose half nude in magazines to talk about her feminism and how being shot changed her life. She dug her heels in and continued her work because she understood that it isn't about a concept, so abstract people abuse it, it is indeed about womanism,about the wellness and well being of the woman irrespective or who or where she is.