Making The Choice

Everybody knows the scandalous tale of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie on the set of Mr and Mrs Smith and how it ruined Brad Pitt's marriage to Jennifer Aniston?(you do?? Good!lets move on).what we all probably don't know is that Aniston didn't want kids(she still doesn't,something about her figure ) while good ol' Brad was a sucker for the little people and that was the crux of his infidelity(he's faithful to Jolie who's on a child rearing mission). Marriage is about making these kinda choices, and then when the kids starts coming my dear just fogerit. It might be little things like your favorite hangout spots, the clothes you like,where you live(I had sworn to myself I will not marry someone who lives in Lagos but here we are)or big things like a juicy job or a career or your sense of humour (that's a no no) but basically you lose somethings without even knowing it. So,why not marry like minds,that way, whatever you lose will be little compared to marrying someone worlds apart. If you don't want kids,marrying someone who does and hoping they'll change their mind is just a recipe for disaster, if you're a party bird look for someone like you... if you're a neat freak, look for your kind and yes!!! it's as simple as that. Get the basics right first before talking about their political orientation or what they think about American football in comparison to soccer. Will you make sacrifices? Yep (a lot actually)but the right kind. The type that makes you proud of what you got in exchange. Love is good and all but if love doesn't make smile, if love doesn't educate you,if love doesn't make you better, if love make you tingle in all kind of strange places(wink),if love is not reassuring, if love is not your sane then brother,sister do you know you're lost oh? Because at end of the day,your sacrifices will be ashes on your lips. So yes, make a choice but make sure you make THE CHOICE

that pays you well, forget what they say,marriage is first about you before anything else.